Let's Talk About Spiritual Striving (and how it affects the feminine nature)

In a previous post, I explored why the feminine doesn’t need to “know,”

And how this is so counter-intuitive to what we’re usually taught- where we’re constantly striving to figure everything out, to understand everything through the intellect and to gain some sense of control over uncertainty.

When I talk about this, it can be misconstrued that we should instead be passively ignorant or apathetic. Or that we should abandon our natural desire to understand more about the deeper nature of life. That we can’t be curious and seek truth or have a firm and unmoving faith in the beauty and goodness of God.

Yet this isn’t at all what I mean when I talk about this not knowing.

Instead, not knowing means deepening into our understanding that we are constantly evolving beings, with nuanced and multidimensional layers- and as a result, being okay with not knowing everything.

For most of our life though, we’ve been taught that knowing it all is what we should be striving for.

Especially in our education structures, we’ve been conditioned to believe that the ability to intellectualise everything is what we should be striving for. That the “right” and logical (to the human mind) answer is what we should be seeking.

This conditioning is then very often translated into how we approach spirituality.

Yet the non-linear, beyond-the-intellect, mysterious design of our spiritual nature, doesn’t operate in this way.

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Often, as women deeply attuned to what’s beyond the physical world, we innately turn to spiritual seeking for answers. Yet because this space has been infused with distorted masculine patterns, it can be easy to fall into constantly striving towards certain spiritual ideals. This can look like comparison, falling into dogmatic spiritual or religious approaches, or trying to be perfect in order to reach a level of enlightenment. This is exhausting and counter-intuitive for the feminine woman, as it doesn’t allow for the organic unfurling of her spiritual nature and true feminine essence.

The problem with pushing our beings in this way is that it leads us back into the same old loops of striving to overcome our natural pace, path and being. These are often the same matrix-esque loops that we desire to exit from, but because we’ve been subtly taught to distrust our pace and unique path, we bring these same subconscious patterns into our spiritual paths.

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The spiritual and the unseen is representative of the feminine in our world. And as women with deeply feminine natures, we have an inherent and deep connection to the spiritual.

Yet in attempting to push our worldly models of striving onto the depth of spirituality, we distort the naturalness of our organic unfolding, and prevent the truth that is trying to weave its way into our beings.

I know how frustrating it can feel to be in the depths of not knowing. To deeply sense the unseen, the multi-dimensional- yet to also understand that the more you know, the more you realise you don’t know. To see with different sight, yet be unable to fully describe or explain it through the intellect. To want to tie things up in a neat little box, but continue to swim in the vast waters of uncertainty.

Yet I’ve found that there is a deep beauty within the humility and openness that occurs when we drop spiritual striving. A gentle power that unfolds when we soften into receiving exactly what it is that we need to uniquely know.

As feminine beings, we have a natural gift of receptivity, yet spiritual striving can easily convince us out of believing in this often understated feminine power, as we’re conditioned to always push and strive to know more.

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Something I talk about in my work a lot, is the organic pace that we all inherently have. And how when we push and force ourselves to override this natural rhythm, we end up causing tensions, resistance and distortions in our Being and in our path.

When tension exists between what we know, and what we think we should know, the only way to move through this is to release our grip on needing to know. This gentle disentanglement isn’t apathy, ignorance or avoidance- but is instead, a softening into the heart of the feminine and an understanding of the nature of surrendering to God.

Because when a woman is open and receptive to life and her deeper spiritual nature, without trying to force what this should look like, she is inherently positioned to receive exactly what it is that she’s meant to know right now.

Belinda x

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